Most people harp on about how focus is the be-all, end-all for success in life and business.
They say that without focus, you're "all over the place" or missing the point altogether.
Some would even compare lack of focus to a mental disorder such as Attention Deficit.
This is incredibly limiting and should be addressed.
The concept I am bringing up today is the power of un-focus, which is a term I've invented to explain a very powerful "life-enhancing" technique.
Although focus is a good way to make things happen, un-focus deals with how it happens AND how it is experienced, whatever it is.
So, how do you "un-focus"?
First, understand that it's not about the specific things your attention is on, but about the collection of things in front of you, and how each of these things relate to each other in space and time.
Every object or living thing can be experienced on its own fully, beyond its superficial attributes.
Some people have been in pain for so long that they have forgotten what it's like to feel good.
When you've been through a tough situation, especially when you have for a long period of time, you become desensitized to how it makes you feel.
At first, you know right away that it sucks. But over time, as you resolve yourself to get through it, and you invest all your energies to getting through it, your attention shifts away from the pain, and toward the solution.
As this happens, you tend to forget how feeling good even was, and how good you felt before the tough situation came about. (that's why enjoying the good times when they are happening is key by the way)
As you eventually get through the obstacle you were facing, you may realize that you feel good about it. That you got through it, and that the problem is no longer a threat.
You may think you feel good, but chances are there is more work to do.
Just because you feel better than you did when you were amidst the...
It can be comforting to think that you have full control over what happens to you.
Most people live their lives that way.
The only issue is that when you do, you are never quite ready for what’s coming at you.
You may think you know how things ought to be, but the way they actually come is sometimes far from what you were expecting… And sometimes better, sometimes not.
The difference lies in knowing how to handle these things when they do come at you.
Sometimes it can be difficult to be in a new situation. Simply because we don’t have the tools to handle everything just yet.
The truth is most people stay stuck here.
But if you are to grow, learn, and prosper, free from the shackles that are holding you back, you need to understand this very thing:
“When life comes at you, you are in the best position to handle it in the best way you can.”
Now, this can be nerve-wracking, until you realize that you’ve been ready for everything that...
It feels like these days, everybody has a different opinion: should you be obsessed with your work, or take it easy and find balance.
This is the good old adage saying that you shouldn’t invest all your time in one thing, lest you miss out on everything else the world has to offer.
By keeping your mind open, you’re keeping your options open and allowing yourself to see what options may lie in other pastures.
But when you’re obsessed, you’re only looking ahead of you, at the next step, your next goal, you’re everything.
So which is the correct way to go about it?
Well, there is no right and wrong, because everybody is different.
You’ve got to know yourself and how much you can handle because with every obsession, comes the consequence of it maybe being too much (?)
Can you handle the pressure that quick success in that narrow path may bring to you? Or is it all you’ve been longing for?
Once you know where you stand on that front, then...
When I was younger, this concept never even crossed my mind.
I didn’t have to show up for things because my parents would always make me.
When I got a bit older, this concept started to make more and more of its way into my life: having to show up for class, exams, and fencing practices.
Today, this concept pretty much runs my day-to-day life. Everything I do and the success that it brings is predicated on how much and how well I show up to perform.
If I’m off one day or lack the motivation, it can become difficult to show up—which is very scary.
When your predicament is based on you showing up to do the things other people aren’t willing to do, it can also be very lonely. Nobody is there to back you up, check on you, and punish you if you mess up.
Although this is true, there are also many reasons why committing to showing up can be quite beneficial…
Once you’ve mastered the art of showing up, it becomes a habit that you can rely on when...
Life is known to always have something to keep things interesting.
It's one of those things that we all know is true: sometimes we got to deal with life's problems.
And sometimes these problems seem insurmountable.
That's where this strategy comes in.
The first step is to pinpoint what the problem is.
Is it something that has to do with an event, other people, or is it something psychological?
Once you know the nature of the problem you can go ahead and as yourself: "Is this something I can do something about, or is this something I can't do anything about?"
If it's something you can do something about, go ahead and make a list of the action steps you're going to need to do to solve the problem.
If it's something you can't do anything about, think of the person or establishment that is in charge of solving that problem for you. Can you get their advice? Can you trust them to solve it?
In the third case scenario, one of an unsolvable problem, you may want to resort to...
These days the idea of ego is a hot topic. For the first time in history, there seems to be a reconciliation between scientific psychology and pop psychology — and this is causing a major stir in the minds of the youth and avid consumers of information.
What does “Ego” really mean anyway? Well, according to psychology, the “ego” relates to the concepts of id (animalistic instincts) and superego (our inner moral compass). It’s (the ego’s) role, is to balance both the id’s and the superego’s influence on our decision making.
But this concept has been completely forgotten by the mainstream media. Now, people use the term “ego” and use expressions such as “having a big ego” to describe some sort of self-entitlement.
There is even a song called “Ego Death” where some of the world’s most famous rappers talk about how you must “get rid of your ego” to “find...
When I first got started in business a few years ago, I thought I could tackle anything and everything. The truth is, I thought I could and that I should.
In college, I majored in Psychology. And back then, I thought that I had found the field I was going to build my life on. I would focus on people’s minds, understand them and help them improve. I started with learning about social psychology, philosophical theory and psychopathology (the study of mental disorders — not how to forget how to be a functioning member of society).
Every time I would learn something knew, I would think of something else I wanted to know. Something else I thought I needed to know. This led me to learn all about market psychology and influence and boy did that open many different alleys. Funny enough, it was about that time when I first was exposed to the saying “the person who chases two rabbits catches neither”. I remember thinking: “I get it. But that for sure...